When it's time to turn the lights off at night, Chandler is just like I use to be (pre-childbearing years). He has a hard time letting go of the day and drifting off to sleep. One night, a month ago or so when I went into his room to tell him it was time to turn off the lamp he gave me the usual rundown. When suddenly the phrase from a song I have listened to many times over from a favorite CD came to my mind, "Count Your Blessings Instead of Sheep." An answer! So I turned off the lamp, put my head next to his on the pillow and we took turns counting (naming) our blessings. After several times of going back and forth I kissed him goodnight and just like that he went to sleep. A bedtime miracle---and a really sweet way to end our days now. Just Chandler and I. You should try it.